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Handling Grief and Trauma
A message from Dr. Boaz R. Futch, Ph.D., BH-C., M.C.
An ongoing series of informational entries from the desk of Dr. Boaz R. Futch, Ph. D.
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During the season of COVID-19 life from year 2020 to now has been challenging for all of us and more for some. The unexpected loss of a love one, a friend, a neighbor or acquaintance. So often people become angry and question their faith, because it did not stop the person they loved and cared about from dying. This is the time to embrace your faith and draw close to your support system and those that surround you. Best said it's okay to cry. In scripture John 11:34-35 it tells us that Jesus wept. "34 And said, Where have ye laid him? They said unto him, Lord, come and see. "35 Jesus wept."
Remember grieving is a process, it takes time, you determine that time. But you have to take care of yourself. Don't try to rush through painful feelings, acknowledge them and allow yourself time to heal.
When memories and pain are fresh seek out people that care, seek out professionals to walk with you. When Jesus sent the Disciples out they did not go alone they went two by two.
Remember take time to breathe!
Abuse and Trauma
Powerless, Fearful, Broken, Hopeless. Each of these words reveal how an abuse victim feels. Those feelings can continue long after the abuse has stopped. They can creep into every relationship. They can make you feel bound, when in actuality you are free. You are no longer a victim, you have either overcome or you can overcome. Let us help. But if you are in immediate danger call 911.
Journaling is a very powerful way of releasing pain and confusing feelings. This is a way of purging that pain because you are not holding it in you are releasing toxic emotions. Amazing Grace Devotional and Prayer Journal is also meant for times such as this.
Dr. Brenda A. Futch, Ph.D., BH-C., M.C.
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Abuse brings a mixture of emotions. As Abuse has heightened, the statistics are staggering. Abuse whether it is physical or emotional it can stem from grief.
As we stated, Grief takes time. Jobs give us three days to grieve. However grieving can take from a year to a few years. Each person grieves differently. Do not expect it to be short term.
Grieving is emotional pain and can manifest itself as physical pain if we are not careful.
There are so many uncertainties today, but what we are certain of is that God does not change. What one must be careful of is that you do not go through a state of long term depression, which is a chemical imbalance in the brain. If you are crying a lot, can't get out of bed or are in total despair, please see your doctor right away.
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When we are traumatized, we always lose something.
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Similar to grief after a death, trauma recovery involves navigating various stages.
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The stages include denial, bargaining, depression, anger, and acceptance.